Teacher. Mother. Wife of criminal barrister. Child of hippy publishers. Sister of incredible activist woman. Blogger. Eastern Daily Press columnist. Kent bred. Norfolk living. Loves: Kettle Chips, boats, equality and the first pint of the holidays.
Guys, I’ve had hundreds DMs asking me about the MIA March Favourites – I haven’t forgotten, hun!
So here, at last (emoji!), is the tat I loved in March
This has had.me.howling. It is essentially two people laughing at their own jokes and you will love it. Please download immediately and snortle away.
Lipstick of the Month
Laura Mercier Extreme Matte in Control. Worn it to down to a nub and still adore it. It sticks through everything- put it on at lunch and it was still on after CrossFit that night- wall balls couldn’t sweat this bad boy off.
Book of the Month
I’ve just finished The Familiars and enjoyed it. It’s set amongst the Pendle Witchcraft trials and King James’ persecution of women under the guise of witchcraft. The protagonist is fun and smart and angry and I liked her. It’s well-paced and shows how grim and dull life was. Trigger warning- detailed descriptions of miscarriage.
Removing a bird that was stuck in our chimney- a true moral dilemma with Team Light a Fire vs Team Young Ornithologist Club member. In the end, we used compromise and a duvet covet to liberate an ungrateful blackbird. And I didn’t phone my dad for advice which means I am a grown up now *takes a bow*
Desire of the Month
Our lawn is riddled with moss which taunts me and I am dreaming of a scarifier which means I am my dad now *takes a long moment to reflect*
The discomfort and delight of having people who knows you absolutely. It’s wincingly sweet- like the ringing of a finger on the rim of a glass.
Gasping grief. Slapstick hilarity. Excruciating disappointment. It’s a feast of feelings and each one twangs somewhere deep in a memory.
Something like television-something as everyday and mundane as telly-has done something new and invigorating. All the mega budgets and well-trod tropes and sets and sex of Hollywood haven’t managed do anything as triumphant and perfect as Fleabag.
It’s not ‘brave’ or ‘clever’ in its portrayal of people: it’s just unflinchingly insightful. It should be recorded and sent in to space because it captures everything human. But without being pretentious or self-consciously deep.
The characters are charged with sex, emanating anger, repression, disappointment, power and fear. It is as rich and sexual as a hot chocolate pudding. And when he says ‘Kneel’. Holy. Hell. The series and I both peaked.
Please consider this a working document and refer back for updates, corrections and new entries.
Discrimination against disabled people. Or, sometimes, it’s even just excluding or not considering the needs of people who aren’t able-bodied.
Someone who fights alongside others for equality.
Black, Asian, minority ethnic. British use
A movement that encourages and celebrates coming to terms with your body. Anti-diet culture. Similar to body-positivity.
Straight people who identify as the gender they were born as.
A word that criticises the type of feminism that only identifies or celebrates the achievements and struggles of being a cis woman (often white)
Different from TERFs (trans-exclusionary radical feminists) whose excluding of the trans experience is deliberate.
Further information: follow the articulate and irrefutable Rebel Lou
Wearing something or using phrases that are a strong signifier of religion or culture. For instance, white people with cornrows or secular people wearing bindis. If you’re unsure, have a look at the account Ask a Person of Colour for examples and clarity.
A type of feminism that considers how inequality affects different people- for instance, a white middle class women has different experiences than a white working class woman.
The notion that most media is produced for the male view- especially pornography, adverts and films. The portrayal of things through a straight male perspective -often represents women as objects of sexual pleasure.
The hatred and/or persecution of black women- different from misogyny and needs its own word because black women receive disproportionate amounts of online abuse, for example. For a useful listen, this podcast is helpful
The hatred of women.
The system when men have disproportionate amounts of power- feminism is the tool we use to fight it.
A lack of access to sanitary products due to finances.
Person of Colour/Color
A person who is non-white.
An advantage afforded to particular group- wealthy or white for example. A sign you have privilege is if you’ve never noticed you have it- tricky! It’s about seeing yourself represented everywhere (from TV to ‘flesh-coloured’ underwear) and never (or rarely) having to adapt your behaviour because of your race, ability, class etc
Doesn’t exist. You can have reverse prejudices but racism is a system across history and society with roots all the way back to colonialism. That is a system that benefits white people all the time so a fleeting moment of prejudice is not the same.
White people’s defensiveness in response to conversations about race.
Further information: Watch Stand for Humanity Stories on Insta but be mindful of her house rules.
White Saviour Complex
The trope in films and TV that white people can ‘save’ non-white characters and ‘learn’ something about themselves along the way. For example, the film Freedom Writers.
In charity, it can be when white ‘storytellers’ are used to narrate or ‘investigate’ poverty and identify ways that they can help. For example, Comic Relief.
For further information, please follow Stand for Humanity but watch her house rules first.
Politically aware and informed- especially in relation to injustices such as inequality.
I have written this as a privileged white middle class woman. I am not trying to speak over others but trying to raise up and amplify voices that should be heard. Please follow the links to find out more or comment to recommend.
Spring has sprung, the bird has riz, at my new office, let’s have a squiz.*
*clearly the investment was worth it- that kind of creative genius doesn’t come cheap.
Plants and cabinet are Ikea. Excellent light up skull was from Lidl Halloween range. The plants on the Ikea wicker placemat are real and I have kept them alive since before Christmas. Brag.
Desk. Fake cheese plant. Real still-alive plant. Lamp. Chair. Spice racks. Boxes. All Ikea.
Left-hand print was a hashtag gift from my in-laws who bought it from Stratford-upon-Avon theatre. Right-hand painting is by my great grandpa and one of my most treasured possessions. Bullet journal by bullet journalif you’re thinking you need a new system to get organised with. Goal Digger mug by Coco Roses Apparel and hot chocolate is the Honeycomb flavour by Options and delicious.
Far left plant from Primark, right hand plant Ikea in a jug from Wymondham StarThrowers charity shop. Rainbow print by up and coming artist, William Oliver, botanical prints by the talented Brie Harrison. Paston Treasure print from Norwich castle shop. Drawers by Ikea. Squillion Lego pieces concealed in drawers by indulgent grandparents.