The discomfort and delight of having people who knows you absolutely. It’s wincingly sweet- like the ringing of a finger on the rim of a glass.
Gasping grief. Slapstick hilarity. Excruciating disappointment. It’s a feast of feelings and each one twangs somewhere deep in a memory.
Something like television-something as everyday and mundane as telly-has done something new and invigorating. All the mega budgets and well-trod tropes and sets and sex of Hollywood haven’t managed do anything as triumphant and perfect as Fleabag.
It’s not ‘brave’ or ‘clever’ in its portrayal of people: it’s just unflinchingly insightful. It should be recorded and sent in to space because it captures everything human. But without being pretentious or self-consciously deep.
The characters are charged with sex, emanating anger, repression, disappointment, power and fear. It is as rich and sexual as a hot chocolate pudding. And when he says ‘Kneel’. Holy. Hell. The series and I both peaked.
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Discrimination against disabled people. Or, sometimes, it’s even just excluding or not considering the needs of people who aren’t able-bodied.
Someone who fights alongside others for equality.
Black, Asian, minority ethnic. British use
A movement that encourages and celebrates coming to terms with your body. Anti-diet culture. Similar to body-positivity.
Straight people who identify as the gender they were born as.
A word that criticises the type of feminism that only identifies or celebrates the achievements and struggles of being a cis woman (often white)
Different from TERFs (trans-exclusionary radical feminists) whose excluding of the trans experience is deliberate.
Further information: follow the articulate and irrefutable Rebel Lou
Wearing something or using phrases that are a strong signifier of religion or culture. For instance, white people with cornrows or secular people wearing bindis. If you’re unsure, have a look at the account Ask a Person of Colour for examples and clarity.
A type of feminism that considers how inequality affects different people- for instance, a white middle class women has different experiences than a white working class woman.
The notion that most media is produced for the male view- especially pornography, adverts and films. The portrayal of things through a straight male perspective -often represents women as objects of sexual pleasure.
The hatred and/or persecution of black women- different from misogyny and needs its own word because black women receive disproportionate amounts of online abuse, for example. For a useful listen, this podcast is helpful
The hatred of women.
The system when men have disproportionate amounts of power- feminism is the tool we use to fight it.
A lack of access to sanitary products due to finances.
Person of Colour/Color
A person who is non-white.
An advantage afforded to particular group- wealthy or white for example. A sign you have privilege is if you’ve never noticed you have it- tricky! It’s about seeing yourself represented everywhere (from TV to ‘flesh-coloured’ underwear) and never (or rarely) having to adapt your behaviour because of your race, ability, class etc
Doesn’t exist. You can have reverse prejudices but racism is a system across history and society with roots all the way back to colonialism. That is a system that benefits white people all the time so a fleeting moment of prejudice is not the same.
White people’s defensiveness in response to conversations about race.
Further information: Watch Stand for Humanity Stories on Insta but be mindful of her house rules.
White Saviour Complex
The trope in films and TV that white people can ‘save’ non-white characters and ‘learn’ something about themselves along the way. For example, the film Freedom Writers.
In charity, it can be when white ‘storytellers’ are used to narrate or ‘investigate’ poverty and identify ways that they can help. For example, Comic Relief.
For further information, please follow Stand for Humanity but watch her house rules first.
Politically aware and informed- especially in relation to injustices such as inequality.
I have written this as a privileged white middle class woman. I am not trying to speak over others but trying to raise up and amplify voices that should be heard. Please follow the links to find out more or comment to recommend.